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Men's reluctance to discuss their problems can be infuriating for their chattier wives and girlfriends, the Daily Mail reported.

And the habit, it seems, starts in childhood.

A study claims that most men, rather than being too inhibited to share their feelings, simply do not see the point of airing their woes.

According to researchers, while girls believe talking endlessly about their problems will make them feel better, boys think it is a waste of time and say the strategy is "weird."

The U.S. team said the opposing attitudes are likely to explain the stand-offs that occur in later relationships.

Amanda Rose of the University of Missouri said: "Women may really push their partners to share pent-up worries and concerns because they hold expectations that talking makes people feel better. But their partners may just not be interested and expect that other coping mechanisms will make them feel better. Men may be more likely to think talking about problems will make the problems feel bigger, and engaging in different activities will take their minds off the problem." （點擊《每日郵報》查看原文）

男可忍 女不可忍

???????據(jù)英國《每日郵報》報道，男人遇到麻煩，總是不喜歡與自己的女朋友或妻子討論一下，而這往往會使他們的另一半很憤怒。

???????而這種習慣，似乎是始于男人的童年。

???????一項研究表明，大部分男人并不是不能與妻子分享自己的感受，只是覺得沒必要討論這些問題。

???????研究者稱，如果說女孩喜歡滔滔不絕地說自己遇到的問題是因為這樣能使她們感到輕松的話，男孩們覺得這是浪費時間，而且這種方式解壓非常“怪異”。

???????研究這一問題的美國團隊稱，兩性這種對待問題的不同態(tài)度有可能解釋長大后兩性關(guān)系中男女的不同立場。

???????密蘇里大學的阿曼達·羅斯博士說：“女人們喜歡敦促她的另一半與她分享壓抑的擔心和煩惱，因為她們認為說出來感覺會好很多。但男人們可能就不感興趣，認為有其它更好的解決方式。男人們甚至認為把問題拿出來說會使問題越變越復雜，并且多說會影響他們的思考?！?/p>

(China.org.cn August 25, 2011)